Why our excuses can be useful
Your excuses are someone else's driving force. Let that sink in a moment.
What this means is, when we make excuses and list out all the reasons why we can't do or have something, somewhere else, someone is using that exact same reason to inspire and motivate themselves into action.
For example:
We say: They'll never hire someone into that role who hasn't led a team before. They say - they've never hired someone in that role who hasn't led a team before, so I'll bring something different that could benefit them.
We say: It's not great timing for me. They say - I have a lot on but these opportunities don't come up very often.
We say: I can't do it. They say - I'd love to learn how to do that.
You get the idea.
Somewhere, there's a person living through a similar experience and making different choices.
They're choosing to let their current context motivate them towards a better future.
So lets have a crack at it this week:
Step 1: Think of something you want.
Step 2: List the reasons (excuses!) why it won't happen the way you want it to.
Step 3: Flip and re-frame those excuses into empowering motivators.
I expect some of the excuses will be a bit sticky or the reframe won't resonate. But I'm confident that if you write out a full list, there'll be something in there that makes you think twice.
And that's what we're trying to achieve here. We're trying to disrupt your current pattern of thinking and breakthrough to a different perspective.
Please hit reply and let me know how you've used this technique, because doing it creates greater impact than reading about it. I'll be testing it on a few of my blockers this week!
P.S. This blog was inspired by an Instagram post I saw from @sofievonm which said "The thing you're using as an excuse is what another person is using as their reason why." It certainly made me stop and think.
P.P.S. There's 2 ways you can currently work with me: 1) a 2 hour breakthrough NLP session or 2) a 4 session coaching programme over 2 months. All phone based. When you're ready, hit reply and we'll agree which approach best serves your goal.
